Your first time is NOT supposed to hurt
You are NOT supposed to bleed
If you bleed, that is NOT your hymen being ‘popped’, it is a tear due to lack of sexual arousal and natural lubrication.
This is all a MYTH perpetrated by men so they don’t have to make sure you are comfortable and sufficiently aroused enough before you have sex with them. It is an excuse to disregard and hurt you.
I just really want women to know this.
OKAY THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT BUT IT ISN’T QUITE TRUE
your first time CAN hurt, and that’s okay. sometimes your vagina just isn’t used to being stretched that much, and no matter how aroused you are, it can still feel odd or hurt a little, and that’s completely normal
HOWEVER, if you are in pain, you both need to slow down and either wait until you’ve adjusted, or pull out and work up to it a bit more
if you’re bleeding, you need to stop straight away, because that is a sign that you’ve gone too fast and something is wrong